Helping Someone with a Life-Threatening Medical Condition

Today was a rough day. The onslaught of YouTube comments was getting to me. I know I post things to YouTube and should be grateful for comments, but some days, I wish people would just tell me they enjoyed the video and not badger me about topics.

As I was pondering how my life would be better if people did not give me their unsolicited advice, I read a comment which stopped me in my tracks. The commenter has a medical condition called antiphospholipid syndrome (APS). APS causes blood clots. The person is on a medication which is akin to aspirin. They have had MANY complications even while taking the aspirin-like medication.

When I read the comment, my heart broke, and I panicked. My brain silently screamed, “Oh no, NO! This is the WRONG medication. The person needs to be on warfarin.”

I frantically searched online and found information about the medication the person is taking, why the medication will not help someone who has had complications from APS, and also information on why warfarin is the drug of choice for APS.

I gave the person the link to the information as well as I copied and pasted the relevant information into the YouTube comment. I hope and pray the person sees my response. I hope and pray the person takes the information to heart. I hope and pray the person is able to see his/her doctor and is able to be switched to warfarin.

APS is a very serious medical condition which can lead to many complications such as strokes, seizures, heart attacks, and death. I truly hope this person is able to be treated for APS. With proper treatment, the risk for developing complications dramatically decreases (and some even say the risk drops to almost zero). 

The commenter told me he/she feels like they are going to die from APS. Please pray for this person. He/she is in desperate need of our prayers.

Terrible migraines

For the last year, I have been having severe headaches and migraines. They become very intense. My neck muscles tighten up, and it hurts to keep my eyes open. The only thing I can do is to go to bed, put a cloth over my eyes, and lay completely still praying for sleep to come. I have suspected it is due my eyes being fatigued. However, I have not been able to figure out a cause.

Yesterday, my eye pain and headaches were out of the world awful. When the pain becomes severe, I have to lay down and close my eyes. I then cannot sleep because the headache is so intense.

I finally figured out the eye pain and headaches. It is from looking at my computer screen. Today, I looked at my computer screen very infrequently, and kept looking away or at the wall every few minutes to prevents my eyes from focusing on the screen. Finally, tonight, my eye pain is nearly gone. My headache is not very severe.

Now, I do not know what to do. My life revolves around being on my computer, responding to social media, and doing YouTube videos. I will have to think long and hard how to balance my eye strain, eye pain, neck pain, and headaches. Perhaps I will have to scale back on YouTube. I am not sure how much more of this pain I can take.

Waiting 3.5 hours (and counting). Should I be upset or concerned?

Today my respiratory therapist was supposed to visit me. She said she would be here around 2 p.m. I set everything up to have the home visit in the living room. She needs to pick up some equipment and get readings off my two ventilators. I patiently waited for her.

After waiting until almost 4 p.m., I decided to call her. If she is late, she usually emails me. Despite checking and rechecking my emails, I did not see any correspondence from her. When I rang her phone, it went straight to voicemail. I asked her to call me and let me know if she is coming.

Well, here I am. I continue to wait. She has not called back.

I do not know if I should be upset I spent all afternoon waiting for her or if I should be concerned. She usually is very good about letting me know if she is running late. Since she did not answer her phone, I wonder if something happened. Perhaps she is sick, a family member is sick, or some other ill fate may have sprung upon her.

I was happy this week, an event I usually attend on Mondays was cancelled. I was happy because that meant I actually had energy today. Since I have Bible Study on Tuesdays, I am usually dragging on Tuesday evening due to having a long day on Mondays, but today, I was going to have energy. However, after waiting in the living room, sitting in the upright caused blood to pool in my legs for several hours. 

Now, my energy is spent. What a bummer. I thought for once, I might actually have energy for Bible Study, but I guess not this week. I will once again hobble through the session, hoping my fatigued mind and body can make it through the night.

I am praying mt respiratory therapist is ok. I am praying she just forgot to visit me today.

Exhausted, but what can you do? Pushing through the pain.

Today was a long day. It was not necessarily a long day on its own, but yesterday was a busy day. And tomorrow is also a chaotic day. So here I am, absolutely exhausted, and I still have one more day to push through.

Funny things which happened today:
I was texting someone, and my phone froze. I texted, “I am exhausted”. Then the phone refused to function after that. I had to laugh. I believe I gave my phone permission to freeze and stop working because, as the screen read, “I am exhausted.” LOL!

Since I was tired, I decided to eat some chocolate. When I was opening up the chocolate bar, I significantly cut my knuckle on the packaging. Again, I had to chuckle. Really? I have been injured by a candy wrapper. I guess today would be the day for that to happen.

Now, my body screams in pain, but I have a long night ahead of me. Sewage backed up into my bathroom. The plumber has been called. He needs to look at the sewer line and clear it out. This means, I have to vacate my room because to access the bathroom, he has to go through my room. I have to move all my medical equipment. I could be angry or upset. Instead, I have decided God must want me to clean up my room. And of course, there is no time like the present to do so.

I hope everything goes well tomorrow. I hope the sewer line is cleared. I hope am able to get a good night’s sleep, sleeping on the floor in a different room. I hope everything I need to do tomorrow happens without any complications. And I hope soon, I am able to rest in bed.

Love Your Neighbor...Unless He is Different Than You

Last night at Bible Study, a person expressed his deep sadness and concern over the state of the USA. He was devastated about the giant chasm which separates many family and friends. He desperately wanted unity, love, and compassion. The man's pleas profoundly struck me. During the session, I prayed with deep conviction that healing for our land would soon come.

Today, I wandered onto Facebook. I usually do not look at it much except to check my messages. However, I looked to see if a woman responded to a comment I had made on her post.

 To my surprise, the woman did not respond, but someone else did. The responder told me I was wrong...

To understand the situation more, here is a brief synopsis of the original post. A woman had received unsolicited medical advice from a family member and wanted to know what to do. I responded she should thank the family member, look up the information to see if there was anything which could be useful, and then report back to the family (again thanking the family member for taking the time to offer her kindness (i.e., unsolicited medical advice)).

The person who responded to my comment went on a rant that disabled people should not have to validate able-bodied people...

I want to stop right there. Right there. THIS IS THE PROBLEM IN THE USA!!!! People are tossing each other into groups. It is the "them" versus "us" mentality. We do not know anything about the family member other than the family member offered unsolicited advice, but now, the narrative has turned from one of love and compassion to one of war and division. Suddenly, we are not to love anyone unless they are exactly like us. We are not to be kind to each unless they think and act like we do.

My blood boils thinking that this mentality not only pervades the mind of the person responding to my comment, but it was the general mood for all the comments. Every person stated the poster should not have to take the unsolicited advice. The woman should reject it (and in essence, the woman should reject her family member).

The world has flipped upside down. I truly believe we should love everyone ESPECIALLY if they are different from us. It is easy to love your best friend who likes the same things you do, but can you love the grumpy old man down the street, who curses at you every time you pass his house?

We are called to be a light unto the nations. Right now, all nations (including the USA) are struggling. Take time this week to reach out to someone you do not know or do not like very much. Extend love and compassion. Smile and say "Hello" to a stranger at the store. A simple smile, a friendly greeting can really change someone's day...and if you change someone's day, you have, in a small way, changed the world. You have helped heal the hurt of this very broken world.

And if you ever receive unsolicited medical advice, please thank the person. You do not have to be grateful for the advice, but please be grateful for the person's kindness. The person wants you to get better and may believe their tip or insight will help you become your best self. Should you be angry someone wants you to become your best self? I think the answer is clear: ABSOLUTELY NOT! We should rejoice and praise God that we have received this unexpected gift of love and compassion. 

Together we can heal the hurt, sadness, and depression which permeates through the world--small actions and words of thanks can do much to build a bridge across this very divided world. 

Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant. It does not act disgracefully, it does not seek its own benefit; it is not provoked, does not keep an account of a wrong suffered. (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)

 

  

Stuck--When You Can't Move On

Recently I released a video about how an interaction with a friend has more or less ended our friendship. The person used to be very kind and caring. However, over the years, things have happened to the person, and the person cannot seem to get over them.

I talked about one particular medical issue the person was having in my video. What I did not relay in the video is that the medical issue is not a new issue. It is something the person has been struggling with for eight years.

Eight years ago, my friend went to the doctor because she was having abdominal pain. She saw a GI doctor. The GI doctor (without doing any testing) told the woman he could help her, but he was retiring the next week. So, he could not help her. My friend was devastated.

Instead of finding a different doctor and getting testing done to find out the root cause of her GI pain, the woman has chosen to remain stuck—stuck with her miserable GI pain and also stuck mentally. She cannot get over that she found the perfect doctor, but that doctor retired and can no longer help her. 

Perhaps, I should re-iterate here, the doctor did not do any testing. He did not know what was wrong with the woman. When the doctor said he could help, there is a mystery as to what he meant by his words. Was he willing to do testing? Was he willing to do a thorough workup? Was he just telling the woman this because she was paying for the appointment out of her own pocket, and he wanted to get paid for a worthless appointment? (I am sorry to be so negative here, but when a doctor accepts a new patient on the verge of his retirement, I highly question the physician's ethics.)

Since that time, every time I talk to the woman, she seems to spiral more and more into the abyss of negativity and darkness. She constantly speaks about the incident with the GI doctor as if it was yesterday.

I feel sincerely sorry for my friend, but I have decided to walk away. I do not want to hear the same rant over and over again every time I talk to her. There are only so many times I can say, “I am sorry that happened to you” At some point, the woman needs to move on with her life…but it seems she can’t.

The thing which really makes me confused is that the woman professes to be a devout Christian. This confuses me because one of the tenets of Christianity is forgiveness. It seems after eight years, this woman cannot forgive the doctor for retiring.

"For if you forgive men their trespasses, then your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." (Matthew 6:14-15) 

It's Another Year...Has Anything Changed?

I do not make New Year's Resolutions. I prefer to change my life as things come along. If I notice I am speaking too much negativity, I work on speaking more in a positive light. If someone criticizes one of my YouTube videos, I re-think how to present information.

Tonight at Bible Study, we studied the end of chapter two in the Book of Job. We read how Job's friends were silent for seven days as they sat next to Job, who was grieving. This image stunned me. In a world of information overload, I wondered how anyone could sit for an hour in silence, much less seven DAYS in silence. 

I then began reflecting on my life. I recently met a very sweet woman who has a quiet demeanor. It has taken me some trial and error to figure out that the way she communicates is by thinking for several minutes about what she wants to say. She then presents a short monologue on her thoughts and feelings. Interacting with the woman is hard...it is VERY hard. To sit in silence for several minutes eats away at my impulsiveness. But I am trying. I am trying to still the never-ending commentary which seems to constantly overwhelm my brain.

I also reflected on Bible Study. I used to stand very firm in my beliefs. If someone said something I did not agree with, I interjected and gave a short disputation on why the person was wrong. As I have aged, I have noticed people do not like to be corrected. Thus, I try to quell my tongue and keep my thoughts to myself.

The last two weeks at Bible Study, people have said things which I knew were incorrect. One idea was not a big deal. The person did not know about a treatment available for a certain medical condition. The other issue, which arose, was being told I said something wrong. I immediately thought of the Scripture I was quoting and pondered if I was remembering the verse correctly. I quietly looked up the verse in my Bible. And there it was, exactly how I had remembered the verse. I could have easily called attention to the Bible verse, which would have vindicated my original words. However, I let the comment go. I allowed silence to permeate the air instead of confrontational words.

So often I feel as though I have failed. I try to change things about myself, but I usually see no progress. For ten YEARS I have been working on holding my tongue and letting things go. I have witnessed myself fail over and over again, and if this would have been a New Year's Resolution, I would have abandoned the notion long ago. But here I am, a decade later, and FINALLY I am seeing some positive results.

I need to take this moment and celebrate my small victories. So often I only see my short comings and my mistakes. I frequently only focus on how I could have handle a situation differently. But for the moment, I want to soak in these small wins and rejoice I am making progress.

“Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’”  Isaiah 30:21